What No One Tells You About Being The Side Chic .

Monday, August 22, 2016

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A side chic is the girl who gets to act as the spare tire to the main chic ( okay I just made that up). But yeah, some of us have been there (I’m glad I’m out now) and have either friends, sisters or loved ones filling that dreadful and sometimes difficult-to-pull-out from relationships.

It’s not a position one should aspire and there might sometimes be one or two people who want to see you as a big idiot for being there, as well as those who have no idea about it.

I bring you the truth about what no one tells you about being a spare tire:

YOU MIGHT BECOME A SIDE CHIC BY MISTAKE

S   Seriously, it takes a very sincere man to say “I have a girlfriend but I like you and would love to see where this leads.”
      The fact is that almost every guy will claim to be single and make it known to you that they are not when you have already started contemplating on whether to have three children or four. 


         THERE IS A CONSTANT BATTLE

     This is the beginning of a trend that you may find hard to deal with. Usually, you may want to prove that you can be as good as the main chic.This is due to feeling unloved by your partner and wanting to measure up.

This happens to be by far the most troubling part and would see you changing your appearance or personality, just to chase the unnatural. At a point it seem like you have lost the essence of you and want you see in the mirror is the reflection of the main chic. 


   THE FRIENDS KNOW

       When guys sit at the table over a couple of drinks, there are bound to be several topics of discussions, including you. Yes you!

 Quit thinking your boyfriend’s friends will confide in you and tell you the dreaded secret (guys always got their backs) because they may know that your boo has a boo and will continuously smile and calls you 'our wife'. 

   SOMETHING MAKES YOU STAY

It may sound silly that one is aware of being a second fiddle yet chooses to stay. Speaking to someone about it may make you seem like you have no value for yourself but there may be something keeping you there.

After telling yourself that it’s over countless times and still going back, it’s good to stay by yourself for a while and figure out what you truly want.

5   YOU MAY NEVER FIND OUT

     For the girl who knows her position, good for you because there is someone out there who has been in a relationship running into years without knowing the actual truth.

In such relationships, everything seems perfect until wind blow and fowl yansh open. This is such a terrible blow that some ladies may never recover from.

     You know, a man that loves you will treat you importantly, placing your priorities first and putting you first. Most importantly though, practice self-love.